Saying No to women abuse

Saying NO to Women Abuse!


Nevada Attorney General’s office, describes Domestic violence as a violent crime committed in the context of an intimate relationship. It involves the acts of violence, power and coercion intended to control the next person’s behavior. Domestic violence can also be referred to as intimate partner relationship, as it is most likely to occur between partners. Both men and women can be victims of domestic violence, but women are more likely to be the victims in South Africa. In many countries, cultural values and norms and many other factors can serve to condone and reinforce abusive practices against women (Kim & Motsei, 2002). Cultural values can prevent most women from breaking the silence and seeking help, and due to most of the challenges that our society are facing, such as poverty, unemployment and crime would be the main reasons why women in south Africa would not easily want to report any form of violence against them. There is a high rate of women in the poor communities who dependent on their husbands or partners for everything, leaving them with no choice but to stay in the abusive relationships. (Boonzaier, 2002) mentions in the contextual analysis that in the Arab society, there is a stigma attached to seeking assistance from outside when being abused and women are encouraged to maintain a secrecy surrounding the abuse. Thus getting someone who is or has been a victim of abuse to open up to you would not be an easy process. On the other hand, in South Africa, the increase rate of poverty, unemployment, crime and deprivation can influence how women understand the violence in their relationships.

It is therefore important when coming across a patient, who is being abused that we handle the situation with empathy as it might not be easy for the person.

On one of my clinical blocks, I had a 45 year old patient from Heideveld who was shot to the head, which then resulted in a traumatic brain injury. The patient came across very weird, as I was doing the subjective assessment, I asked her about her family and she told me that her kids are living with other people and that she is living with her boyfriend. I then went deeper into what the boyfriend does and she opened up more about her situation. She told me that her boyfriend likes fighting and her kids do not like him, she then told me that he is the reason why she is in hospital. I was a bit shocked, but what surprised me more was the fact that she did not see anything wrong with her situation. She continued telling me that he makes her happy, by buying her alcohol and taking care of her even if his a bad guy. This patient was willing to stay in an abusive relationship which almost cost her, her life and willing to lose her relationship with her children because of this guy. I did not know what to say and where to start in terms of educating her about domestic abuse/violence as it came across as it did not bother her. In this way domestic violence or abuse can also have an impact on the psychological state of a person, where they accept their circumstances and see no hope. I know of many women in my community who allow their partners to abuse, just because they are supplied with drugs and alcohol. Some victims also tend to focus more on the material things, rather than their well-being. What do you then do if a women being abused does not want to admit that it is wrong? In most cases most women are not ready to admit that they are being abused.


I think it is therefore important that the abuse topic is spoken more about in schools and hospitals, in order to ensure that people know of it and know that there is hope and help outside, they should not allow the society or culture determine how they should live.

Boonzaier.F. (2005). Women abuse in South Africa: A brief contextual analysis. Feminism & Psychological, 99, 103.

Kim, J., & Motsei.M. (2002). “Women enjoy punishment”: attitudes and experiences of gender-based violence among PHC nurses in rural South Africa. Social science & medicine, 54, 1243-1254.

Jewkes, R., Levin, J., & Penn-Kekana, L. (2002). Risk factors for domestic violence: findings from a South African cross-sectional study. Social science & medicine, 55, 1603-1617.



3 Replies to “Saying No to women abuse”

  1. Hi there.

    Interesting read and it’s quite shocking to hear of stories like that, as I’m sure it’s not an isolated incident. It’s important for us as first line practitioners to report such abuse according to the law, whether the patient wants us to or not, because in the end it may cost the patient her life as you mentioned. She also needs to be educated that there are other ways she can be helped, and staying in an abusive one isn’t her only option.

    You might want to just prove read your posts as there’s some basic grammer errors.

    Kind regards
    Keegan Dunstan


  2. Wow, what a sore heart situation. I think you have hit the nail on the head with the way you have spoken about your thoughts on your personal clinical experience. I’m sure it was not easy to take all that in, and kindly not give your own personal judgement to the patient. I am curious to know, what did you do with all that information from the patient? I feel you have taken the raw-ness of defining the meaning of abuse and putting it into a very realistic situation in the clinical and community settings. Your pictures you have included are on point and go well with your topic. I was slightly lost in the beginning of your post and only caught up after I had read your clinical experience, possibly next time put your clinical experience first to set the train of thought, although that is my personal preference. Some minor grammar errors, but we all are tired and drained so very much understandable. Possibly could of had more in text referencing but having threes references are good,


  3. Hi,

    This is another post that has opened my eyes to situations I don’t often come across and has positively affected my understanding by reading it. I really enjoyed this post and support all your thoughts. You referenced well and appropriately for this piece. This post should fall under the category of “Abuse” instead if being “Uncategorized.”

    You used good media throughout which helped strengthen your argument. There are grammatical errors throughout the piece but nothing that takes away from the impact of reading it, minor tidying up is necessary. Why don’t you try some hyperlinking in your next post? If you need some help in doing that just contact me or anyone who knows, this will maximize the use of tools available to us in an already very good post.

    Thank you and well done.


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